They dont honor cap. He had left his. Would have been nice to have some college savings, instead of debt to pay. The more child support the states collect, the more profit the state makes from the federal government for collecting child support. Where is the child? Im sorry that your son is thrown into a multiple household situation that is only hurting him. Divorce courts are gender biased in favor of women and women get custody of the children the majority of the time. I pay for all of their private school tuition, child support, and I have them equal time other than 4 days a month. she makes almost as much as meand i BEGGED to have 50/50 custodydeaf ears. (IPC 497). My husband ex wife admits to breaking bottles over his head and stalking down women she thought he was sleeping with. I took the charge to stand up for my right to visit my kids. If you have the kids 7 nights per fortnight, you're assumed to be covering 50% of their costs through direct care. But all water under the bridge 20 years of my life and over 700k nwt income spent on nothing. This class action is on behalf of *both* types of family court for wrongful victims of divorce-and-similar-with-kids *and* for wrongful victims of child protection services and includes suing on behalf of ANY parent affected by either family court type. So technically daycare is not a need when you can use a private party. Whether it be mother or father the ones who make it work are the ones who care about the child over their own selfish biases. My babysitter offered to care for my son (live there) while I stayed in the hospital both times with my daughter. How come they dont make married families and singles on welfare, pay it back????? How can a person afford to improve himself when he can hardly afford to support himself? You sound like a mom that may has a deadbeat dad, envolved. I happen to be familiar with the social consequences of forced paternity because my mother worked in the district attorney's office in Santa Clara County, Calif., in the . So dad now owes 2 years in back support and in a lot of cases the mother is making 2 to 3 times what the father did before he was injured . 2. Regardless of whether you have a child or not housing costs will always exist. In one well-publicized case, a father in Michigan objected to child support payments when his ex-partner gave birth after knowing he did not want children. The mother always used the child as a weapon prior to the legal matters being settled and now she doesnt have a leg to stand on. I had to spend 30 K on attorney to get 50-50 Custody. Him, not their mom who receives the cs. Same with trying to get better housing, so he wouldnt have to go to his sisters house every time he had his children. That was seven years ago. But it costed me a lot of money to get proof and to go to court those 5 times, and in the end Im still paying. Why not throw her in jail!? She had her permit suspended for oweing a few months when we were paying it all on time until my injury. Advertiser Disclosure. Now *any* parent must meet their financial responsibility to their child. Check it out! My oldest daughter was diagnosed with Autism, FASD, and static encephalathy. If guys can go around have kids all over the place without facing consequences for their actions then yeah something should be done about that. Okay, you with me still? Try clothing four children pay for extra activities pay for sports pay for field trips snack money shoes school supplies medical expenses! The fifth time he served a six-month jail sentence, which caused his past due child support to grow to over $5,700. Most fathers want to support their children in ways other than financially by having them in their home. I was even told to stop trying to get out of your responsibility. We get my step daughter every weeks 3 days a week every week and her mother has her 4 days. She kept filling my daughters head with nonsense about me leaving her so I was having to try to explain that I would never leave her I just left her mother. Youre telling me that (assuming an equal amount of financial responsibility was considered during Child Support calculation) it takes roughly $40000 dollars a year to raise and support those kids?? Single parents were given financial assistance from the government. I would come home after 16 hrs of work to be bombarded with kids being hungry. Please post this on Facebook so I can like it. We areout the door planning another activity. 51% deadbeat MOM, by current Wa. Jade I am sorry you have know earthly idea what you are talking about. Edins study goes hand-in-hand with other recent research that suggests economic support, although necessary, is hardly enough to qualify one as a good parent. My family is 600 miles away and they have not seen them in two years. This blows my wife has 400k trust fund her dad pays her13 k to be in a band she has a part timing gig at weight watchers only to make 25 k a minimum here her dad did our taxes for years and he has pumped thousand of dollars over the years as gifted money. Murphy discusses cases in which legal fathers resort to violence or threats of violence against a mother and her children when child support orders are enforced against them. Why, if we made this change because it would be of great help to our living and financial problems we were going through. The core of the problem with modern child support laws is that there is too much emphasis on enforcement and not enough focus on getting fathers involved in their childrens lives. Someone in charge needs to change the system. Now Im just a stranger to my kids that gives their mother without them knowing. Eager for a fresh perspective. 4. Im still a low income father with huge back payments. My child support got lowered to $3.35 because the father is incarcerated for a criminal charges. Dads everywhere are getting screwed over and treated badly! "It's a case of, 'Get your lazy behind off the couch,'" Trout says of judges addressing stay-at-home dads, adding that he heard one judge say almost precisely that. They used to call cps on me once a year, and when tha never worked, they waited for the paternal grandma to get a settlement from a minor car wreck so that they could essentially purchase my daughters, who became dropouts and my oldest a teenaged mom. Michelle Ferreri licensed in PA and NJ only - Philadelphia, PA. Dorothy Walsh Ripka licensed in OH, IL, MO, KY and TX only. The matching dollars was supposed to help States pay for tracking down dead beat dads, but now every dad that gets a divorce is a dead beat. And every other weekend in visition is truly a joke, its about 14% of the time during the week, the mother still needs to support the children the other 86% of the time. . In most cases these children were made out of love. While a minor is taking care of another minor home alone at night.. Get a lawyer, build a case, and fight for custody my brotha. I did not work for 15 years. Money does matter to the kids, time does. So what do we do about it? No parent should be paying another parent to rasise their own child. I feel your pain I have a evil kiss mom took everything gets 1300 a month Im left with 220 week to live off of been trying so hard so long Im about to give up either go insand, kill myself ,or hurt people..I am refused my kids by her she tries to keep our bond up tells them bad things about me took and takes eveverything I plus gets all my money Idk wtd Im sick of living ,cryingstressed ot of my mind Im sick every day I cant remember the last time I was happy Im a good father she always wins dont work just makes my life hwell, Im going through the same man if it makes you feel any better I had no idea till last year after paying the same amount for 9 years I would get taken to court for back support my kids are 23, 18, 17 and right before the age out took me for the original amount she was awarded when we agreed on separate amount I payed 600 every month for 9 years. Why is the non-custodial parent responsible for paying child support any more than the custodial parent? Why hasnt anyone made a movie about this! If they are 12 and up 30% for two kids max of your net. Rose seriously! Meanwhile, their mother has written off my son and refused to help with anything now that hes emancipated. She moves in with a new bf every other year while my love is the only woman Ive introduced her to. She makes 160k a year. I have to pay child support in the amount of money I would have spent on them while not in my custody. SInce I was resposible and had a job I STILL was ordered to pay child support just because I had a job and she did not. They are winning because they successfully pit men against women and vice versa, when there are good parents of every gender, every sexual orientation that are being denied their constitutional rights because apparently civil law is above the law, and we need to fight them together, as parents, not fathers or mothers. Then she still didnt let him. She saw a sweet and trusting man and she took full advantage. I say we dont separate fathers from mothers in this battle for new legislation and justice. How did she earn this additional money? For some people its worth it to be happy, but its not easy. All this state funded support also places a burden on the noncustodial parent to replace that support when the custodial parent is more than capable of providing some type of support to at least even the blow. I filed for child support in 2015, but cancelled the case when he begged me to and we agreed that he would pay me $250/month (I have text messages to prove this). This is not fatherhood. He never offered to take or come to any of her appointments or any radiation treatments (Mon-Fri). My daughters mother put she was only making 8.50 an hour working 28/hrs a week when she filed for child support. Women are not saints , far from it, this women used me to get her pregnant only to get child support and she doesnt even use it on the child. I hired an attorney who I thought was after my best interest for my divorce. This divided things and made dads home and moms home two seperate sides for our son. How about holding the mom responsible for where the cs goes? I agree!!!! Also, you have to be behind $5,000 or $10,000 to be put in jail. Now, he is almost 58 and he looks OLD. We will not be hurting anymore. You dont get to make all decision because of it. An increasing number of children being born out of wedlock. To go to court to fight custody is another half. There must be no good men because 90% of custody cases are awarded to women. Push for changeSo how do Dads organize to make this a possible topic of political elections? We will not be demonized for our struggles. The courts need to take into account all of the other broad complexities of a situation.. For example the federal governmetn says 12,000 a year is plenty for a single person to live off of, and then they have other numbers for familes with 1,2 or more children on what a single or family should be able to live off of. The parents should decide together how to pay for the kids extras, and the few required expenses should be covered by a legal agreement to split the costs. I did so, giving him the benefit of the doubt. Should we be shocked that we are in the same position on the game board two years later? All of this after she brought the man who beat her while she was holding their baby back into the home. I have decided to not even communicate with his family. He has always had the child 15 days per month and she filed as though he didnt have any overnight stays and with false income information. For young fathers who are struggling with finishing school or entering a new job, being ordered to pay child support until the child becomes an adult is challenging, even if the amount is minimal. My story? Sir you are 100% correct! To the payee it hurts. My wifes car and a car I did not know was in the driveway. Now he is going to court in a few days to show why he isnt in contempt of court and our 10 month old baby may have to see her father go to jail because of this corrupt system!!! As Johns Hopkins University sociologist Kathryn Edin explained to Graham, the traditional roles of mothers and fathers have changed dramatically since the 1970s, but the laws are still stuck in the past. Here at Fathers for Equal Rights we believe that every parent, be they non-custodial or custodial, has a duty to financially and emotionally support his or her children. While the non custodial parent (90% of the time men) have to pay. HOWEVER, the majority of men do not want the day to day care of children, but will agree to the 50/50 arrangement in order to avoid child support. The mom or the taxpayers, so stop complaining and say thank you to the other people who pay to raise your children. He drank to medicate himself and begged for a divorce. So do I feel sorry for him because he was jailed for non compliance with his job searches or when his tax refund is snatched (when he finally did get a job) and given to me to satisfy his arrears? We all parent together and have boundaries to ensure my son can love all his parents- my kid is almost 18. It is not about bitterness The curry court system is one sided. In my situation, we had an agreement for over 6 years for a set amount. you are being forced into paternity and/or an unfair child support obligation against your wishes, you are a victim of domestic violence, . I could not drive. Unless it was rape, doesnt the woman chose to have sex also. 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